Today’s Tuesday Reading, “Don’t Get Gun Shy”, is an essay by Lizz Duke, Senior Systems Analyst and member of the ServiceLink Team at NYU. The essay first appeared as a program reflection in November 2016.
As leadership communities grow across our client organizations, we’ve witnessed several interesting approaches to leading leaders. Here are a few noteworthy trends we see in letting leaders spread their wings.
Do you have one?
We’ve all encountered them. The one, or two, or more bad apples on our teams who have little or nothing positive to say about anything, regularly upset and disrupt others, and make work miserable for everyone.
What's the difference?
Someone asked the other day, “What do you think?” and I wondered, is this a time to coach or a time to mentor? In our interactions everyday we may have the choice to adopt one approach over the other. Yet we need to be able to make the distinction between coaching in contrast to mentoring. When is coaching the better path; when would mentoring be a better option?
Earlier this summer we introduced the idea (in a series of Tuesday Readings, as referenced below) that if we understand how our brain works, we can better understand why we react the way we do. I wrote, then, that the individual’s brain, in the days of our early ancestors, had one key goal – survival, avoiding threats and seeking food (rewards). And, avoiding threats had a much higher priority with five times more neural networks devoted to threat detection than to identifying rewards.
As I listened to an interview with Rick Levin this morning, CEO of Coursera, what seems to me as a decreasing value of content, was further being validated.
Overcoming a Bad One
The very first exercise we do in the MOR Leaders Programs is one on first impressions. Sit or stand in a circle, take notes on the first impression you have of the individuals in your circle, add some notes about the first impression that you think you create, and share. For most individuals, this can be a scary moment since most people have never considered what impression they make on others or the impact it has on building a future relationship with that individual.